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Mar 18Liked by Addison Del Mastro

I live in Manhattan with two small children in 500 Square feet with no car. Thick community is everywhere. Through work friends. Through the kids. My 4 year old daughter's school is a 5 minute walk. Her best friend is one block. The central park zoo and natural history museum and central park carousel and unlimited playgrounds are all walking distance and all provide unlimited family opportunities and chances to get to know other parents. You could choose an isolated existence to excess here if you're not thinking or you can just enjoy a bit of solitude in small amounts. This sort of housing development described in this article sounds like hell to me. Thick community would be so much more difficult.

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Mar 18Liked by Addison Del Mastro

Love the whole piece but this is particularly beautiful:

“Urbanism is a set of tools that makes it easier to cultivate ties and build relationships”

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Mar 18·edited Mar 18Liked by Addison Del Mastro

Yes, I loved that line as well.

Was also nodding along to the part about the buying any affordable home vs. valuing where it's located. This hit home. We live in a smaller city in the midwest, but even still we would not have been able to afford the actual locations we wanted (for context: three kids 4 and under, one income). And the ones that were in our range would have needed thousand of dollars to even be livable.

The space in our little 1930/1940's neighborhood is nice, but I'd be lying if I said it's the *ideal* place. Cultivating ties, relationships, doing anything without buckling up the kids is such a slog. I'd take a more urban environment any day if it was in the budget.

Great piece!

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Thank you!

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Thank you!

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I really enjoyed this piece. As someone with kids who lives in an inner ring suburb - that doesn't look like the place for me. BUT, I would absolutely consider it! We chose to live where we did to be close to family, even tho our jobs are at the other end of the Bay, and then looked for a house that was close enough to the train station to make our commutes easier. We accidentally happened upon an "urbanist" lifestlye before we knew that word existed. True. living in the exurbs does have its disadvantages - but as far as exurbs go, at least this one seems a bit more conveniently designed? It probably wouldn't be my first choice no matter what - but it would certainly be something I'd consider.

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Mar 25Liked by Addison Del Mastro

In regards to urbanism and family, I think there's a fundamental disconnect in the way we talk about these places, as you sometimes allude to. Having grown up out in the middle of nowhere, I fully get why folks don't see big downtown city life as conducive to raising a family, even if that is ultimately untrue (and something we've, as a society, forgotten the experience of).

The trick is, there are more options than just these sterile suburbs, which I honestly also couldn't imagine raising a family in. I right now live in a small town on the very very outer edge of the Chicagoland area. Not at all in a place that can be called a big city. But also nothing like these modern suburbs. It's a proper small town. I think it would be a great place to raise a family (still working on getting there myself, since it is, unfortunately, not a great place to meet women), for the very fact that it's a small town and not just suburban sprawl (although we have plenty of that, too).

I think to get the family folks on board, we need to learn to better emphasize that point. Just like a stroad is neither a street or road, a sprawling suburb is neither a city nor a town. We need to separate the concepts of towns and suburbs, because they really are different.

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"We need to separate the concepts of towns and suburbs, because they really are different."

100%. Even older suburbs have some of that cozy town-like feel. The newest stuff we're building is just not good, and I don't think most people living there think it's the best kind of place to live. It's just what they can afford.

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My bent is always to divide the issue into preferences and incentives. You make a good case for this looking like a bad set of preferences. But I'm an economists will always come back to the incentives: the disincentive of land use and building codes that make family friendly urbanism difficult. If THOSE things changed. probably there would be less demand for Brunswick Crossing. [As for it becoming a fiscal drag, that can be fixed by utility connection fees, pricing & taxation.]

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The regulations regarding lead/asbestos remediation might have a profound effect on rehabbing older buildings which ultimately helps to lead to a proliferation of Brunswick Crossing "ghettos"

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Then possibly they are excessive and should be revisited. What are the costs and benefits of existing vs modified remediation rules? Still, most of what I'm talking about is new infill construction.

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I’m glad you’re asking the question, what is so bad about it? Aesthetics and housing costs aside, what might incentivize people to move to suburbs? Is it such a mystery? Having space for multigenerational caregiving, whether raising children or caring for aging parents. Some people value having a garage for hobbies such as woodworking, yards for gardening or maybe they want pets. Even those closely packed houses offer better sound proofing than many apartments, in which you hear every argument, every thud, every vibration from stereos.

Do urban environments facilitate building community? Pretty sure I’ve heard people express the exact opposite, enjoying the anonymity of the big city versus the tightly knit (sometimes suffocating?) small town life where everybody knows everybody else’s business. Any modern environment can be isolating, whether suburban, urban, rural. Probably more a result of our collective decision to outsource traditional dependencies on friends, acquaintances, and family, in favor of rapid/simple economic exchanges with strangers to meet needs. Also, some people are naturally just more social than others. What you feel is suburban isolation may be another person’s peace and quiet.

I know people value the urban environment, its shops, restaurants, and other amenities. It’s no mystery to me. Likewise, it should be no mystery why some people value suburban environments. There are many good arguments for denser housing and weighing the true costs of suburban development. I am interested in those issues. But it would be helpful if urbanists acknowledge that reasonable people can weigh the pros and cons, and end up choosing the burbs. It's not so bad.

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Good comment. But to clarify I don't mean "living in a detached house in a subdivision," I mean this tradeoff of leaving basically everything behind to get a house for the right price - drive till you qualify, etc. *That's* what I've not stopped and considered before, not the basic idea of suburbia. I think most urbanists understand that will always exist and there's some room for it.

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I grew up in Frederick County, when it *was* boondocks. At least it was far enough from the city that the Montgomery County kids called us "frednecks."

There's much worse developments around here than Brunswick's. Villages of Urbana is particularly frustrating for me, with so much within walking/biking *distance*, but the built environment being mostly hostile to moving between places without a car.

At least in Brunswick you *can* walk between, say, the Marc station and the Weis (or anything in town between them) without walking alongside, or crossing, Burkittsville Road. In Urbana the places you might want to get to are in seven or eight pieces divided by traffic.

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"Frednecks." Yeah Urbana is along 355 right? I've driven by there, it's so weird to see basically urban buildings just kind of randomly placed down there. You're right though, the walkability is rough and it's worse maybe because there *is* more stuff to get to. Brunswick doesn't have much retail or general stuff as far as I saw unless you go to Frederick or MoCo. Like a bunch of other commenters, I wish these new developments right near old towns enlarged the grid and connected to the old town. I don't think Urbana has any such old town.

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Mar 19Liked by Addison Del Mastro

Urbana was little more than a crossroads before the developer came in '99. There was an elementary school, volunteer fire company, gas station, convenience store, and pizza/sub shop. So, yeah, not much of a town to build off, but the project was big enough that they could have built one from scratch. The new library, Giant grocery store, and the other "Market District" buildings you drove past *could* have been arranged as a walkable center. As it is, the Giant parking lot is the closest thing to a town square; the stores that face directly on that lot get a little mutual foot traffic (even though almost everybody had to get there by car to start). Nobody is ever walking the sidewalk on the other side of 355, because it's an undesirable walk alongside fast traffic to get there from anywhere else.

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